The Stages

The var­i­ous stages, or phases, of a rela­tion­ship... who doesn’t know them?

The first kiss, which lets us forget every­thing else around us... the first fight, which leaves us ques­tion­ing every­thing again... falling in love... moving in together...

There are many stages a modern rela­tion­ship usu­ally runs (or sneakes) through from the begin­ning to the end. 13, to be exact:

1 - Becoming acquainted

1 - Becoming acquainted

You quickly real­ize if the other person appeals to you. If you feel attracted you better clar­ify your sit­u­a­tion. ‚What does your girl­friend think about her boyfriend drink­ing coffee with strange women?’ - ‚My girl­friend? My girl­friend left me 3 weeks ago.’ She gets this „poor boy” look... ‚Don’t let it get you down.The world is full of women!’ ...

2 - First date

2 - First date

You should never over­rate the first date. You can do some­thing really extrav­a­gant, or you can just do some­thing unspec­tac­u­lar and prac­ti­cal. Either way - you shouldn’t expect too much. Or even better: Don’t expect any­thing!

3 - First kiss

3 - First kiss

You know that moment? When you gaze at a stranger’s eyes, and you’re over­come by the feel­ing that you’ve known that per­son­all your life? When that hap­pens, you’re not far from the first kiss...

4 - First sex

4 - First sex

This stage can last between a few days and a few weeks. During that time you learn all your partner’s sexual pref­er­ences... And you dis­cover some new tricks... But if you eat too much at once, you might begin to feel queasy very soon! ;)

5 - Being in love

5 - Being in love

You want to spend every second together. Every time you sep­a­rate, it’s an incred­i­bly dra­matic moment. During this phase, you feel that every­thing... absolutely every­thing the other person does is some­how sweet. You assume you will spend the rest of your lives together...

6 - First fight

6 - First fight

You often say things you don’t mean. If mutual insults don’t achieve the desired effect, you end up employ­ing more dras­tic means. ‚I never want to see you again!! I’ll post your things!’ - And that’s it! Easy come, easy go! - But when you break up in the heat of the moment, you might regret it the very next moment...

7 - The friends

7 - The friends

Get­ting along with your partner’s friends at first sight is like win­ning the lot­tery. At best, your friends only try your partner’s patience. Your friends can also be the source of a new quar­rel: ‚What do you mean? „Girls night”?’ - ‚What’s wrong about going out on my own?’ ...

8 - The parents

8 - The parents

Par­ents often have dif­fi­cul­ties under­stand­ing that their chil­dren have def­i­nitely grown up. ‚I see, an author. What do you write? Books?’ - ‚Yes ... as well.’ - ‚And you can live on that?’ - ‚Mum!’ - ‚What’s wrong? I just want to sound out my future son-in-law!’...

9 - Through thick and thin

9 - Through thick and thin

Once you’ve reached this stage, you can essen­tially go for a ride. The love affair devel­ops into a very deep friend­ship. You sud­denly do things together you’d never even do with your best friend...

10 - Moving in together

10 - Moving in together

Moving in together can raise fright­en­ing ques­tions. Ques­tions like: Is life really over now? Will I become old and narrow-minded? But it can also con­sti­tute an undreamt-of source of eupho­ria. After all, a mutual flat gen­er­ates an incom­pa­ra­ble feel­ing of close­ness.

11 - Daily routine

11 - Daily routine

Every­day life can drain a rela­tion­ship of its strength. There are quite a few things you could deal with alone, but for some inex­plic­a­ble reason it’s much more dif­fi­cult to do them together: ‚Have you paid the gas bill?’ - ‚No. You wanted to take care of it.’ - ‚I did? Who’s going to pay the phone bill?’ - ‚Who’s con­stantly on the phone?’ - ‚Con­stantly. Nobody’s „con­stantly” on the phone...’ ;)

12 - Separation

12 - Separation

You can stifle sus­pi­cion, or you can talk about it. ‚Where were you?’ - ‚At a café.’ - ‚With whom?’ - ‚I won’t tell you.’ - ‚Have you met some­one else?’ - ‚Yes, I’ve met some­one else.’ -- At this point you stop being in love...

13 - Absolutely final stage

13 - Absolutely final stage

After the final stage comes the absolutely final stage. At first, every­thing might be cool. You take the oppor­tu­nity to do what you hadn’t been able to do for a long time. But some­times you wake up in the middle of the day - and that’s the point when you real­ize exactly what hap­pened. Noth­ing, absolutely noth­ing will ever be the same as it was...

0 - Not in a relationship

0 - Not in a relationship

Actu­ally, this is not a real stage of a modern rela­tion­ship. It’s the phase in between, after you man­aged to get over the last one and before you meet some­one new. You may be look­ing for some­one... or not (yet).

At what stage are YOU??

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