diary of a modern relationship

While most of the expert tips on our web­site focus on start­ing, keep­ing or improv­ing your rela­tion­ships some of us are look­ing for ways to GET OUT of it with­out having to be the ‚bad guy’ by actively break­ing up.

In the first sequence of the movie Julius, the main char­ac­ter in ’13 stages’, is about to commit sui­cide because he has loved and lost her. In the moment when he almost puts his foot on the heav­ily traf­ficked lane a strange woman pulls him back. She lit­er­ally saves his life - and Julius imme­di­ately falls in love with her!

In the first days Laura helps Julius to get over his last relationship.

But... has such a rela­tion­ship a chance or is it star-crossed from the very begin­ning? Can a new lover ever help some­one to get over a seri­ous rela­tion­ship or do we just take advan­tage of them?

(Side note: NEVER EVER commit sui­cide! No lost lover is ever worth this. Love is a living thing, it ends and it starts from the begin­ning - again and again! If you don’t believe it ask a happy couple if they have ever felt like you now!)

Never before has the search for „true love” (accord­ing to offi­cial sur­veys) been as pop­u­lar as it is today - while at the same time, never before have so many of us been so far away from this goal. And so we stum­ble on... and on... from one rela­tion­ship to the next in search of...

well, what exactly?

Are your best friends really experts in the field of modern rela­tion­ships... or do they just rep­re­sent their own (clash­ing) interests?

Moving in together can raise fright­en­ing ques­tions. Ques­tions like:

‚Is life really over now?’

‚Will I become old and narrow-minded?’...

But it can also con­sti­tute an undreamt-of source of eupho­ria. After all, a mutual flat gen­er­ates an incom­pa­ra­ble feel­ing of close­ness.
Well... the most impor­tant ques­tion is: How does this close­ness affect a modern relationship?

Love is...

... thing in the world!

The first date, the first sex, moving in together or break­ing up... Some stages are more favored than others, some are not favored at all but very frequent.

1,2,3... or 13?

‚When you have loved and lost, you are fucked. You don’t want to begin a new rela­tion­ship because how could you pos­si­bly LOVE another? You don’t want a fling because in the shadow of real love what would be the point? You don’t want to be alone because it hurts too much. You can’t be with the one you lost because he or she is either dead or sleep­ing with some­one else.’