The Modern Relationship
Why are modern relationships so complicated? Why can't we manage to live in a state of eternal happiness, forever floating around in our own 'seventh heaven'?
While most of the expert tips on our website focus on starting, keeping or improving your relationships some of us are looking for ways to GET OUT of it without having to be the 'bad guy' by actively breaking up.
In the first sequence of the movie Julius, the main character in '13 stages', is about to commit suicide because he has loved and lost her. In the moment when he almost puts his foot on the heavily trafficked lane a strange woman pulls him back. She literally saves his life - and Julius immediately falls in love with her!
In the first days Laura helps Julius to get over his last relationship.
But... has such a relationship a chance or is it star-crossed from the very beginning? Can a new lover ever help someone to get over a serious relationship or do we just take advantage of them?
(Side note: NEVER EVER commit suicide! No lost lover is ever worth this. Love is a living thing, it ends and it starts from the beginning - again and again! If you don't believe it ask a happy couple if they have ever felt like you now!)
Never before has the search for "true love" (according to official surveys) been as popular as it is today - while at the same time, never before have so many of us been so far away from this goal. And so we stumble on... and on... from one relationship to the next in search of...
well, what exactly?
Are your best friends really experts in the field of modern relationships... or do they just represent their own (clashing) interests?
Moving in together can raise frightening questions. Questions like:
'Is life really over now?'
'Will I become old and narrow-minded?'...
But it can also constitute an undreamt-of source of euphoria. After all, a mutual flat generates an incomparable feeling of closeness.
Well... the most important question is: How does this closeness affect a modern relationship?
... thing in the world!
The first date, the first sex, moving in together or breaking up... Some stages are more favored than others, some are not favored at all but very frequent.
1,2,3... or 13?
'When you have loved and lost, you are fucked. You don’t want to begin a new relationship because how could you possibly LOVE another? You don’t want a fling because in the shadow of real love what would be the point? You don’t want to be alone because it hurts too much. You can’t be with the one you lost because he or she is either dead or sleeping with someone else.'